100 Days of Wisdom: Wisdom Day 28 — The Wisdom of Being Fearless in the Face of Fear

Wisdom Day 28

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In her book, Courage: Overcoming Fear and Igniting Self-Confidence, Debbie Ford asks and answers the following questions:

  • How many times have you felt yourself shrink?
  • How many times have you made yourself small enough to fit into some role that you wanted no part of?
  • How many times have you kept your mouth shut when you wanted to scream loudly, or handed over your power to someone who didn’t have your best interests at heart?
  • How many times have you succumbed to an impulsive or addictive behavior rather than making a clear-minded choice?
  • How many times have you told yourself, “I can’t. I’m not strong enough. I’m not courageous or confident enough to be all that I desire to be?”

How many times … indeed. It seems we face personal and professional hurdles and roadblocks at every turn and crossroads on this spiritual journey called life. And so much “self-helpy” advice seems to focus on “defeating” “battling” or refusing to acknowledge fear altogether (as if fear was some external enemy or distraction we can completely eradicate or ignore).

But the fear that arises in any given moment, whether of clear and present danger, something completely made up in my beautiful mind, or some real but distant residue from my past, seems actually to be a process of ebb and flow.

The purpose of fear seems to be to shine a light on the things I may not want other people to see. Of course, fear also (and more importantly, on the things I may not want to see, do or be either. Those  things born of “perfectionism” and concerns about not being seen, heard, provided for or protected that I’ve invested the better part of my life trying to escape or at least to hide in the dark corners of my mind and heart.

But it — the fear — can either be debilitating and draining or empowering and motivating, depending on whether I try to fight or flee instead of face the fear. Fear can be a great teacher and motivator depending on whether I react or respond. Yes, there is a difference.


Today, instead of being reactive and at war with fears or trying to pretend as if they don’t exist, I respond by facing and embracing them and remaining open to the lessons the fear has come to teach me.

Debbie’s wise words encourage just that — facing your fears. Funny thing about hiding ourselves from others (or at least trying to). If we do it long enough, there comes a time when we don’t even recognize ourselves. Instead, let fear’s light be your guide back to your light and THE Light.

Today, I  face and embrace my fears and encourage you to do the same. I trust there is wisdom even in their whispers. I trust I am enough and have enough to learn and grow even in the midst of fear. I have faith that on the other side of that wisdom is my light and my authentic life. In each moment that I embrace my fear I have the opportunity to “find my own shine” again!

Be well … and WISE!

Tonya Marie

Read an excerpt of COURAGE by Debbie Ford at Oprah.com


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2 thoughts on “100 Days of Wisdom: Wisdom Day 28 — The Wisdom of Being Fearless in the Face of Fear

  1. This resonates so deeply with me today, Professor. Thank you (as always) for this heavy medicine & for being a light, in general.

    • Thanks so much for the comment and for sharing your reflections, LB. Wonderful to always have you on this journey with me, one whisper at a time!

      Continued blessings and abundance to you,


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