Wisdom Day 80: The Wisdom in Connection and Belonging
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“We gather in a group to be witnessed, to be supported, and to be both equalized and elevated in our struggles, gifts and ambitions. Common ground is very fertile ground … it is, what Emerson calls, “…the common heart of which all sincere conversation is worship.” Where two or more are joined with the same intention, grace intensifies and solutions multiply. Belongingness heals and nourishes with its affirmative recognition that we are not alone. Simultaneously, we are able to experience our unity and our uniqueness.” ~ Danielle LaPorte
December 22, 2013
Dearest Wisdom Circle,
I love this passage from Danielle LaPorte. And oh boy do I need a support circle right now. As an only child, sometimes I can withdrawal into my own world to be with me, myself and I when the ups, downs and challenges of life start to snowball and weigh me down. And recently I lost a childhood sister friend, Barbra Watson-Riley (a/k/a Pinkwellchick), to triple negative breast cancer.
So the allure of solitude is great.
The rush of adrenalin that hit as the signs of her inevitable passing began to quicken is gone. And the reality of her absence has hit me and her family and friends hard. But one of the greatest gifts Barbra gave to us is the gift of true, authentic, enduring friendship. She was a self-described and fully actualized “friend chick”. She had so many circles of friends and one of her greatest joys in life was when those circles intersected and overlapped. Her passing has brought us all together. To grieve. To forgive. To commune. To heal. And ultimately, to evolve.
Perhaps she knew without knowing on a conscious level that in her unbearable absence we’d all need the comfort, support and healing found when two or three are gathered and standing on the common ground of friendship and love. Perhaps she knew that we’d all need the beacon of light found in “belongingness” to help restore our faith when our fearless connector was no longer physically present to bridge the physical and emotional distance that sometimes separates friends and even family. She was a uniter in every sense of the word.
She created support systems at first for herself and, ultimately, for her circles all over the world from Paris to Phoenix. She was amazing. And she still is. Because she lives in and among the concentric circles of love she created and nurtured while she was on this physical plane.
So who’s your support group? What are you doing to unite rather than divide? What negative emotions and interactions can you leave behind as we near the end of another year. And another day. In what ways can you foster connection, inclusion, healing … and love? Danielle LaPorte offers some suggestions.
Be well … & WISE! Tonya Marie
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